Cash wedding gifts can be a tricky subject. They’ve come to be known as the official gift of not knowing what you want. We think this is unfair. Asking for cash shouldn’t be seen as boring or disrespectful, because money is what helps us experience and accomplish the things we’re truly invested in. Money renovates our homes and gets the check on anniversary dinners, it buys flights to exotic places and pays our dog walkers. To so many people, money is the ultimate gift—because it gives us freedom.
Of course, that’s too much to explain to your great aunt who is disappointed that you haven’t registered for any cut-glass china. That’s why we’ve come up with some advice as to how to ask for cash as a wedding gift—and actually get it.
We know that asking for cash wedding gifts can be uncomfortable. For a lot of couples, it feels greedy, and to most of us, it comes off as plain old faux pas. However, that doesn’t make it any less practical for soon-to-be-newlyweds to crave cash over traditional registry gifts.
Now more than ever, couples are asking for money instead of household wares. And it makes sense. Couples are saying “I do” later than ever before—the late twenties being the new norm—which means establishing their own lives and personal spaces, as well as moving in together long before engagement and marriage. Point being, they already have dishes and towels. So what most millennials really want to stock up on for their new life together are experiences.
In the past five years, we at Blueprint Registry have watched the wedding registry industry try to catch up to the growing shift towards cash. Here’s why we think our approach to cash gifting works best:
How to Tastefully Ask for Cash Wedding Gifts
When we talk to couples and suggest how to make the ask for cash easier and less awkward, we always tell them to phrase cash as experience.
Blueprint Registry is unique because we artfully arrange our gifts by visual rooms. One of them being the “The Experience Room”, which is where you can make space in your registry for non-tangible gifts. Hint: People are likely to gift more money when they know exactly what it’s going towards.
When you register for cash via honeymoon funds, down payment money, and more, you keep the freedom of having it be a cash contribution no matter what (it’s your money!) while your guests feel like they are contributing to a certain cause, project, or activity.
Browse our Cash Registry and see for yourself the number of ways we can help you get cash without the awkward ask. Here are a few of our more popular experiences:
Date Nights: Gift cards to your favorite restaurant and movie tickets are always welcomed, but setting up a cash fund for date nights means limitless options — so get spontaneous!
Home Improvements: Whether planned or unexpected, extra funds for your home always come in handy. We can’t think of a better return on investment than collecting cash for a renovation. Refinishing your hardwood floors or updating your kitchen will bring in its own cash gift when you go to sell.
Down Payments: Of course, the ultimate home improvement is, well, a new home! If you haven’t heard, down payments are pretty expensive these days — getting some help from your wedding guests can go a long way.
Honeymooning: A dream honeymoon can seem like little more than a dream for most couples. For those short on cash after shelling out for your nuptials, a honeymoon fund can slash the price of your tropical getaway. Now, you just need to pick a place to go!
Asking for cash can be really hard. It’s wired into so many of us that it can look totally distasteful to request, and many people would much rather gift you a tangible gift. We hope that with these suggestions, you can have a positive experience requesting cash funds for your event. After all, if it’s what you really want most, it’s worth asking for (and receiving!).